I believe in the power of positive thinking. When I was a teenager, my parents were conducting the Cold War in our home. Unhappy in their marriage, and doing nothing to fix it, both Mom and Dad had decided to bring an element of drama to our lives that my sister and brother and I did not understand. We had no knowledge or experience of the silent treatment, that cold, caustic atmosphere of anger and uncaringness that goes hand in hand with a failing marriage. Instead, my siblings and I carried a burden of guilt and responsibility that caused each of us to suffer in our own ways.
That’s how—as a young adult—I needed to learn to think positively. By the time I was in my middle twenties, I had worked many jobs, and some of them were real clunkers–such as the Westcooke Mushroom Factory, ten warehouses of drippy, stinky cow manure—but my most recent job, as a Therapy Assistant for the State of Oregon had given me a strongl sense of self-worth. That’s when I decided to quit my job and go to college.
After all, I told myself, I had been successful in a fairly high-paying job; why not go succeed at my lifelong dream? I continued to coach myself throughout four years of college. I always told myself, “If others can do it, why, you can do it too!” and other positive messages, such as “If you don’t know how, just ask! That’s what they are paid for!” and a message that I really love: “Don’t ever, ever tell yourself no. Tell yourself yes. Give yourself permission to do well.” Another favorite message is this one: “If you wouldn’t put another person down, why would you put yourself down?” I definitely learned to coach myself through positive thinking. I thought myself to success. This is not a skill that I learned over night; I definitely recommend you take some time and practice learning to be kind—to yourself.